Grieving

Long before Ralph died, and even long before it was very evident he was dying, he began to grieve.  Yes, you read that right; HE began to grieve.

I only wish I had understood that during the time it was happening. Let me give you a little idea of what his caregivers experienced:

• Control freak. Ralph ordered everyone around as if they were on this earth to serve his every whim - no matter how ridiculous. "Turn the plant 1/4 inch to the left. Get me fresh water. Hand me a tissue."    
• Night-time exercise. 3:00am he's up doing arm circles and leg lifts. No, I'm not kidding. Up 2 - 6 times for at least an hour at a time. Expecting the caregiver to be cheerful.